Sometimes when you start a new job or accept a promotion, you have no choice but to move. This may just be across town or it may be across the world. This move, as with all moves, will be stressful-especially if you have kids.
Children bring an added level of difficulty to any move. They have grown accustomed to the surroundings in your current home. They have made friends, gone to school, and made roots in the community.
It is important that your children understand the need for relocating, what will be involved, and information about the new location. Listed below are five areas you may want to consider when changing homes with children.
Talk to Your Kids
Children need to feel included. They need to feel like their voices are being heard. When you first tell your children about the move, do so in a light, pleasant, but serious tone. Make sure that they understand the reasoning behind the move. Discussing a promotion or a new job can be a simple way to do this.
Be prepared to answer any questions your children might have about the new location:
- What is there to do in the new city?
- How long will we be staying there?
- Will we ever move back?
Knowing how to answer these questions is an important first step in easing the anxiety that inevitably comes with moving.
Involve Your Kids in the Selection Process
When relocating to a new town, many firms will offer temporary housing or provide home-finding trips to help you locate a new home. If these opportunities are allotted to you, involve your children in the home buying process.
Giving your children a say in where they will spend the next few years of their lives will help them feel more at home in their new surroundings. When doing this, make sure your children are aware of the needs of the family. Give them parameters that will guide them in the home buying process.
Your children may open your eyes to possibilities of homes in areas you never considered.
Over the years your family has filled your home with stuff. Some of the stuff that occupies space in your house carries sentimental value. Other things, like toys your kids don’t play with anymore, just take up space. It is important to go through your things and decide what you can keep and what you can get rid of.
Sell What You Can: There are a number of valuable objects you’ve collected over the years. These items often stay in their original packaging. From the toaster oven to the extra coffee maker you received as a birthday present, you may have a number of things that are still valuable, and the same is true with your kids’ stuff.
Go through closets, dressers, and boxes to see what items of value you still have that could be sold, and encourage your kids to do the same in their bedrooms and wherever they keep their toys. Have your kids help you hold a yard sale and give them the cash earned from their stuff.
If you are pressed for time, take items to the local pawn shop and negotiate a price. You won’t get as much money, but some money is better than no money.
Donate the Rest: There are a number of charitable organizations across the country who would love to have your old stuff. Old clothes, phones, and computers are just a few of the things these places can resell. If you can’t get any cash from your old stuff, take it to the nearest donation center.
Make sure to get a receipt once you have dropped off that box of old junk; you may be able to use the donation as a tax write-off.
Get to Know the New Neighborhood
As you go house shopping, you should be doing research on the area in question-the type of research that will benefit your kids. What kind of schools does it have? Does it have parks, eateries, or other places families can visit? Is the neighborhood kid friendly? Once you have asked and answered these questions, the next step is to take a trip.
Go There: This visit will help you get a feel for your new surroundings. While you are there, get to know the people around you. Even if you haven’t bought a house yet, talk to people in the area to see what they say about it. Most people will give you an accurate picture of life in that location.
See the Sights: Once you have decided where to move, take your kids along and spend some time getting to know the area. Use the internet to answer any questions you might have about your new neighborhood.
Once you get there, take long drives around town to see the local attractions. Don’t be afraid to get lost; just make sure to set your GPS in the event that you do.
Spend Time with Your Family
Finally, with a new town you have a new chance to get to know your family. Take this opportunity to spend time with your family. This will help to relieve any anxiety or undue stress your kids may be feeling. This is also a great time to strengthen the bonds which bind you together.
There are many positive things that can happen for both you and your kids when moving to a new location. As you look for these, your lives will begin to turn your new house into a home.